Stop feeling insecure about your looks because all of us have insecurities. Perhaps, you may think that you’re not good enough, you don’t know what you’re doing with your life, and you feel fat or ugly. You know what? It’s okay to feel insecure but you should never let it consume you. Don’t let it consume your positivity, your happiness, your productivity for a day, and never let it stop you from helping others.
As you see, big insecurities make you very shallow or even a bad person. You just sometimes feel inadequate from what others perceive as perfect. When you let it get to you, you just need someone to tell you that you’re good enough. So, I’m here to tell you that you’re more than good enough. You’re beautiful and one day, you’ll make a difference.
We are all insecure because we care.
It’s perfectly normal to us, as human beings, to care about what people think of us. We care if we’re doing enough in life or if we’re pretty enough. But, how could you possibly expect someone to see pass through your looks, your flaws, your mistakes, and all your failures in life if that’s all you focus on?
If all you see in the mirror is that fat ugly person, then no matter what you wear, what you do, that’s how people are going to see you. It’s not because you’re ugly or your fat, but because all those negative thoughts will bring out the bad vibe, bad attitude or bad image, giving you this fake smile which everybody can see through.
People can tell by the way you carry yourself, by the way you smile, how you shrug your shoulders, and how you pull yourself together. We all know that our poor posture doesn’t attract good and happy people. So, how could you expect people to want to be around you when you don’t even like yourself? What should you do?
Stop feeling insecure by helping other people with their insecurities.
No matter how hard it is and no matter how big or small, let go of it. Focus on helping others to stop feeling insecure about themselves. You’ll definitely do this because of one good amazing reason. Your brand new positive attitude will resonate in everything you do, in every cell of your body.
It will show in the way you walk, the way you speak, the way you laugh, the way you smile, and basically the way you look. You will have this amazing bright ray of sunshine behind you that no one can’t resist but to be a part of your life.
If you focus on bettering yourself in helping others, instead of focusing on your insecurities, those feelings of insignificance or feeling ugly or not good-looking will start to disappear. People will start to see you for who you truly are on the inside. You’ll see that you are worth more than what you think. Everybody will see pass through your flaws and think highly of you because this great positivity in helping others.
Being constantly caged by your insecurities and complaining about it every single day will not make it your life or anybody else’s life better. If you can change it, go change it. Be happy and chase your dreams. But if not, don’t worry. Life goes on.
So, all you have to do is be positive, be happy, be amazing, and help people as much as you can. When you do, you’ll see that your insecurities are insignificant in comparison to what other people are going through right now. Helping people will make you realize that you are not as bad as you thought you were.
Accept yourself the way you are.
You’re probably going to tell me that it’s not easy and if we did that, then we wouldn’t have insecurity problems. The thing is, for you to be able to accept yourself, there has to be someone that will show you support and tell you that you’re beautiful just the way you are.
Sadly, we don’t want that attention from our relatives. We want it from someone else. We know that our relatives are really close to us. They kind of love us unconditionally and other people don’t have that sort of impact on us. It’s basically the reason why seek other people’s attention. Now, here is the question- how do we get that attention from others?
It’s all about having a good personality. A good personality is being yourself by not avoiding two important things. The first one is being careful about yourself and the second one is having ambition. By being careful about yourself, it means protecting yourself from others’ negative opinions and stand by which you believe in. When it comes to ambition, always have a passion for things such as writing, drawing, music, and much more. By having an ambition, you’re going to see yourself more inspired to become a better person.
Once all of these things are completed, you will stop feeling insecure. You will understand that you have a lot of people around you who accept you the way you are just because of your personality. With that acceptance, you will be able to overcome your insecurities and gain self-confidence. You will start to take care of yourself such as trying on new clothes and new make-up products. You’ll then start to explore what looks good on you.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
I’ve seen so many people over the course of my life, including myself, feeling insecure because they always compare themselves to other people. You should know that there’s no point in comparing yourself to other people. It’s toxic.
Theodore Roosevelt once said that “Comparison is the thief of joy.” I 101% agree with that. We compare ourselves to other people and focus only on the positive qualities about them, completely ignoring all their negative characteristics. Without knowing the full stories of the people we’re comparing ourselves to, it’s what we see on the outside which makes us feel insecure.
The solution to this is to just be you. You have a million unique characteristics that make you who you are. Whether it’s your smile, your looks, your intellect, your sense of humor, or your resilience, all these things make up who you are. They make you an individual and that means there’s no one else in this world like you. I’m positive that there’s at least one person out there who is comparing themselves to you at this moment, wishing there was something about them that was more like you. So, stop comparing yourself to other people. Stop feeling insecure. Just be proud of yourself.
Learn to notice the good things in yourself as easily as you notice them in other people.
An easy way to do this is when other people compliment you, don’t shoot it down. Accept it as truth. Whenever I get a compliment over the internet, I always screenshot it and keep it in a little folder and open it whenever I feel insecure or sad.
When you look at yourself in the mirror in the morning, don’t feel bad. Start complimenting yourself and there’ll be a good chance that you probably are what you tell yourself. There’s nothing wrong with vanity. Learn to love yourself as you see others and as others see you.
Above all, surround yourself with amazing people and you, in turn, will become amazing. If someone’s better looking at you, stop feeling insecure because there’s absolutely something appealing to you that they don’t have. You are you and you are beautiful in a simple and natural way.